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this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined
to his wife; andthey shall become one flesh." - Genesis 2:24
do I do if I don't love my spouse anymore?
times when we don't feel like we are "one flesh" with
is that we are fallen. Genesis 2:24 is before the fall, when Adam
and Eve could be perfectly one flesh. We do not experience that
perfection--but that still is not an excuse for divorce.
says they no longer love their spouse, that usually means they no
longer feel romantic love. But, marriages are not built on romantic
love. The truth is that it is a rare marriage that does not experience
a falling away from romantic love.
The Bible does
not give a loss of love as an allowable reason for divorce. It does
say that a husband is to love his wife. (Colossians 3:19, for example).
In saying this the Bible is not talking about romantic love, but
a caring concern about the welfare of the other person type of love.
This is a type of love that does not just happen. It requires that
we make a decision to love, and then that we put out effort to carry
through with our decision to love.
this type of love involves making a conscience effort to think,
"What can I do today that will make my wife (or husband) fell
better or be happier today?" And then doing it in a cheerful,